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[LewEngBridewell]

Finally met my mother's new f!ck buddy. Seems alright. But no-one can better my PROPER dad.

That's a weird thing to say. I was not affected by divorce. Both of my parents are dead, they were relatively old when I was born. My father was 51 and my mother was 40, so I was an unexpected little bundle of joy. Please don't take offense, it's just that the comment made me think about how divorced does affect children in ways beyond most expectations, but then again, being raised in a dysfunctional or abusive marriage would also have its effect. So I guess an amicable split is the goal in a divorce.

My parents relationship began to go rocky back in '05, and it was about '08 when my father initially moved out. I was 18 at the time, and was mortified. Until then, despite recent troubles, I'd always imagined us all to be together as a family forever. They had another bash at living together and separated again in the October of last year, with my father moving into the house recently vacated by my deceased grandmother.

As soon as he departed, my mum ran off with one of my father's friends, which caused a quantity of distress and misery on my father's part. It's been an awkward situation ever since. I'm thankful I don't have to spend all my time in the midst of it all, unlike my younger brother, who still lives at home.

But, going back to my proper dad. I'm obviously more attached to him, as he has been a loving figurehead in my life since I was born.

[Blackavar]

I got a text from my (soon to be ex) wife saying "I definitely still care about you and always will."

Had quite a laugh at that!! what a dumb

That's not very nice of you. What happened between you guys?

[vlad]

Finally met my mother's new f!ck buddy. Seems alright. But no-one can better my PROPER dad.

That's a weird thing to say. I was not affected by divorce. Both of my parents are dead, they were relatively old when I was born. My father was 51 and my mother was 40, so I was an unexpected little bundle of joy. Please don't take offense, it's just that the comment made me think about how divorced does affect children in ways beyond most expectations, but then again, being raised in a dysfunctional or abusive marriage would also have its effect. So I guess an amicable split is the goal in a divorce.

My parents relationship began to go rocky back in '05, and it was about '08 when my father initially moved out. I was 18 at the time, and was mortified. Until then, despite recent troubles, I'd always imagined us all to be together as a family forever. They had another bash at living together and separated again in the October of last year, with my father moving into the house recently vacated by my deceased grandmother.

As soon as he departed, my mum ran off with one of my father's friends, which caused a quantity of distress and misery on my father's part. It's been an awkward situation ever since. I'm thankful I don't have to spend all my time in the midst of it all, unlike my younger brother, who still lives at home.

But, going back to my proper dad. I'm obviously more attached to him, as he has been a loving figurehead in my life since I was born.

I back up your decisions, mate, judging by the things you say. Only 1 more thing:
Your brother is THE most important person to you, in the world! You have to do something to help him.

[LewEngBridewell]

I back up your decisions, mate, judging by the things you say. Only 1 more thing:
Your brother is THE most important person to you, in the world! You have to do something to help him.

I will. Have no fear about that.

Thanks buddy!

[vlad]

You're welcome, mate!
I have an older brother, I know how it is.
Enjoy!

[Hammer278]

I back up your decisions, mate, judging by the things you say. Only 1 more thing:
Your brother is THE most important person to you, in the world! You have to do something to help him.

I will. Have no fear about that.

Thanks buddy!

Watch the movie depicted in my avatar. Seriously. It's made for brothers.

[LewEngBridewell]

What did I do today? I turned 22!!!! As you all know anyway!!!

[andrew]

I had an interview for a new job. One of the managers at work got wind of it and kept asking questions about it and didn't seem to pleased (tough !!) despite me pulling an 11 hour shift!

[Big Azza]

For me I had another interesting development in my life. My "dad" (Larry) called me up last night and told me that I may not actually be his.

The poor bloke had been worrying about how to break it to me for most of the week. The thing is, my mum told me about this a couple of years ago but was still adamant that Larry was my father and not Paul. Even though I look more like Paul.

I'm not at much of a loss here, because the bloke who I've been calling my father for the last 21 years was only in my life for the first 6 months - and we've only spoken on the phone a dozen or so times since. Unfortunately I still do not know what Larry looks like - but I do look a lot like my sister who definitely is Larry's - but both of us get our looks from our mum.

The only reason why this could be a concern is because I really need to make sure that my medical history has no nasties in it.

I actually find this little twist comical! I do enjoy a little episode to keep me busy.

On the medical front, thankfully the public system has prevailed, and they've pushed me through to see the neurologist next Tuesday. I was given priority because of my age and symptoms.

The strange thing is that the initial scans are saying it may be an arachnoid cyst. But these things are congenital and it would have shown up 5 months ago in the last scan.

Unfortunately the symptoms I am having seem to line up with a tumor in that region of the brain, and there are two white splodges in the cyst so it's not entirely positive... Some older friends of mine know a bit more than I do, and have seen first hand the affects of cancer. They are really concerned that some of my symptoms are similar.

Maybe I should leave the diagnosing up to the doctors, but I have been stuffed around lately by doctors and it's good to go into these things prepared.

Anyway... hopefully in the next couple of weeks or months it'll all be cleared up and I'll be good as gold!

[vlad]

Of course, that's the right attitude from you! Keep it that way!

On the matter of father, did Paul live with you all these years?

Btw, you should eat asparagus, as often as possible. There is a strong theory lately that is based on the decades if experience. Those things help a lot in any tumor or tumor-like situations. There is a way of preparation, I'm sure it's easy to find.

And, yes, listen to the doctor, he will give you the best diagnose!
Good luck, once again, and stay positive and well!

[Big Azza]

Thanks Vlad.

This Paul fellow I have never met. He was only a 6 week fling with my mother around the time of my conception.

When my mother got back with "dad" Larry, they found out she was 3 months pregnant but she can't remember the exact timing of it all.

But I could really entertain this thought. I was able to find this Paul fellow on Facebook. He has 4 kids... so I could go overnight from the middle child of 3 to actually being the most privileged child in our family with 6 brothers and sisters! And he has a goovy French surname!

And reading his Facebook page he likes the things I like - Soccer and Fast Cars!

I can slightly see a resemblance, but maybe it's wishful thinking.

Hopefully they are really rich, live in a castle, and maybe some are actors and drive really fast cars! And maybe they are related to Sebastian Vettel!

But it would also be really unique to have 2 sisters both called Hannah!

[vlad]

Hahaha, yo, sistas!

There's one thing I will tell you! If Larry lived with you all these years, he is more father to you than Paul. But, I still don't know the entire situation, so you decide. Anyway, keep having fun in all, just the right way to deal with everything.

[Blackavar]

Bought a ticket to see Justice in June. Need to book accommodation now.

[LewEngBridewell]

Spent far too much on train travel than I would've liked

[darwin dali]

Spent far too much on train travel than I would've liked

Then drive a car damnit or jump on a British Airways!