Unfortunately there are people everywhere; in my case they are always the same, which have not respect to others. I want to excuse them and I would like to continue on topic as if nothing of that would have happened.
I read the original post and then I see others arguing over conspiracy. You guys are pretty funny sometimes.
Anyway, Stefano is a good team principle. The call was from Chris Dyer, a dire decision that had me shouting at the tv not to do. No pun intended. 
Ferrari went against everything Alonso had been saying the whole time, aim for podiums. When he should have been chasing down Button for 3rd they got concerned about Webber in 12th-13th after his pitstop. Pathetic.
I’m not talking about conspiracy. I’m talking about a deal between people that had already worked together for years, elaborating successful strategies for winning races and Championships in F1.
I also believe that Stefano is a good team principle. It would be interesting to know, what are the former principle and first driver sentiments after been replaced in Ferrari.
I had the same sentiment than you when Chris Dyer made Alonso to stop. I even didn’t understand why he made stop Massa. Alonso was comfortably driving in the fourth position that he needed to win the WDC and perfectly covered by Massa fifth. He only had to drive smoothly copying Vettel to finish the race as WDC.
But Dyer ordered Massa to pit and even having the time to know the horrible situation in which he had placed him, he also ordered Alonso to stop. Everybody knew at the moment that Alonso had lost the WDC. Such a mistake in an experienced man like him has only one explanation for me. HE DID IT ON PURPOSE.
It wasn’t Ferrari who was against everything Alonso had been saying the whole time. It was Chris Dyer. It’s easy to understand why Ferrari has replaced him.
If Alonso could get as many laps from a set of supersofts as Button, he wouldn't be Alonso.
Alonso didn’t need to overtake Button. I believe that’s evident.
The situation in Abu Dhabi was different though, the softs had a period of graining that would pass, so it got progressively worse after a number of laps but then would clear out, Alonso didn't wait for them to come back.
That’s a mere and little credible supposition and it wasn’t Alonso who didn’t wait, it was Dyer.