Who is Joel and why is he an idiot?
Huh?
Oh, sorry. Hi, I'm Joel. Nice to meet you >.<
And uh, he's an idiot because he can't tell when someone's being nice to him for more reasons than just that they're a nice person. 
Aaaw 
Yeah. Needless to say, she's upset and I feel terrible. 
Note to self: never discuss your feelings for a lady with someone you only see as a good friend, just in case...

Guys can be just as bad.
I told a guy that I had developed feelings for him.
He asked me to come back to his place for umpalumpa.
His exact words:
"Well if you love me so much, you'd love to have umpalumpa with me."
I told him he was a jackass, and then he said
"I do have a point."
Needless to say, I didn't go back to his place.
Brace yourself, here comes the impact. It's only worth it if it comes hard. Darling trust yourself. Stick to your guns. No one said a revolution was easy.