- 03 Jul 09, 03:15#130513
Sounds to me like you're really desperate. Which is probably rubbing off into what you say or do when talking to a woman. Most women can see that right away, and can tell if you have a low self esteem which is a huge turn off for women.
But theres lots of things you can do, like going to events that interest you, and meeting women there like at races for example. That way you can meet a woman with the same interest as you, and can be easy to carry on a conversation. And when you start talking to a random woman, you cant half arse it, you gotta be totally confident and friendly. If you just half arse it and force it, you'll get that awkward vibe. And if she's not interested, who cares!!! Move on to the next one.
Funny you should post one year later Rive,I was about to start a thread, basically yeah I'm still struggling to find myself a woman.
I've tried practically everything, going into rubbish nightclubs (you'll never find anything there, don't like them anyway), trying to start conversations in bars (and then you get a funny look as if to say "what is this total wally doing speaking to me?").
I've even tried speed-dating and I even have a subscription to match.com, but when I send an email, no bugger replies! And it's not like I'm writing out some boring essay (I post two or three sentences and make references to their profile as well) or posting something immature like "hey nice boobs want to shag?".
What else can I do? One of my friends suggested joining some clubs which I could go to on a night after work, but there aren't many around these days apart from sports clubs, dance clubs etc. I mean dating, "how hard can it be?" as Jeremy Clarkson might say.
Sounds to me like you're really desperate. Which is probably rubbing off into what you say or do when talking to a woman. Most women can see that right away, and can tell if you have a low self esteem which is a huge turn off for women.
But theres lots of things you can do, like going to events that interest you, and meeting women there like at races for example. That way you can meet a woman with the same interest as you, and can be easy to carry on a conversation. And when you start talking to a random woman, you cant half arse it, you gotta be totally confident and friendly. If you just half arse it and force it, you'll get that awkward vibe. And if she's not interested, who cares!!! Move on to the next one.
