I hear you, thats why I try not to argue and instead become condescending - as I was brought up to regard idiots as people who are just a bit slow and thick.
This is a problem we have in society in general, everyone is too nice and polite and PC. It doesnt help the idiots if you allow them to correct a good with a wrong, and other border line idiots observing this might think that the acceptance of an idiots views makes the idiots right leading to the situation we have today with idiots voting for other idiots who normal people are too polite to pull their pants down till they do something hugely idiotic that then affects everyone.
Probably the same as jimmy savile, all those who were too polite to call him out for his 'wrongness' are just as guilty in my book
On a seperate note, the issue of abrasive or conflict is much misunderstood IMHO. Conflict can be healthy when it happens under carefully preplanned rules. Arguments are not bad unless rules of conduct are broken. Conflict does not have to be terminal or fatal, it can be tempered and beneficial. Adult life is about dealing with conflicts and obstacles and tests. Its only a problem when the rules are broken typically by someone resorting to the logical fallacies - cheating, lying, etc etc - this is what leads to stupid wars.
Conflicts cannot be eliminated from life, they can be regulated and clear rules applied that indicate the end or conclusion etc.
Maybe there are 2 schools of thought here, 1 that thinks a best friend is someone you have never fought with and 1 that thinks you cannot have a best friend unless you have fought and tested and therefore discovered who they really are. Lets face it, if you have 2 people in a discussion and they both agree completely then by definition the discussion was a waste of time. If 2 of us agree on how to do something then one of us is a waste of space (not in a bad way)
Yes its not nice for mods etc to have to clean up after, but they only have to do that when 1 side decends into the fallacies. A body builder goes to the gym to pump up muscle, without tearing the existing one by conflict he aint gonna grow bigger ones
Anyways i ve rambled on enough, hope this helps our forum in some way